It is often said that your network, determines your net-worth, and that who you company with determines what accompanies you.
This is absolutely true, but I make bold to say, that though ‘who’ you associate with is very important, much more important is ‘how’ you associate with these people. This is because, a lot of people have had opportunities to associate with great friends, colleagues, love ones, business partners and a whole lot but lost these very beautiful and promising relationships simply because, they lack the ‘how’ and sadly, if you don’t know the ‘how’ you will howl.
Even the bible said it is a dangerous thing when you don’t know the ‘how’ of a thing. This was expressed in the words of Solomon, the wisest man in bible days in Eccl. 10:15 that “The labour of the foolish wearieth every one of them, because he knoweth not how to go to the city”. From this, it is even foolishness when you don’t know ‘how’ to manage your relationship. You can see how important this is.
At the Wisdom Place this week, I refer to these ‘hows’ as pillars. Hence, we shall be discussing the ‘hows’ or better put, the pillars of a lasting relationship.
I shall be discussing a pillar for a lasting relationship and thereafter, urge you to complement this, by stating in the comment box, other pillars you feel are vital for a lasting relationship.
- Pillar of Deposits
In the banking parlance, it is your deposits that determines your withdrawal. You can’t claim a fund in an account without having made any deposit. In the same vein, it is your “relationship deposits” in the lives of people that determines the withdrawal you will be able to make from them.
Most people today complain that they are not having good relationship with people, particularly with their spouses, but the question is, what kind of deposits are they making into such people. You can’t desire respect and courtesy from people, when you are not courteous yourself, you can’t desire your spouse to trust you, when all the time you suspect her and always query her movement, you suspect every phone call he receives, always uncomfortable when you see her discussing with the opposite sex and all of that. You can’t be doing these and expect trust in returns, this is because, it is a principle of nature, you are bound to reap what you sow. You sow distrust, you reap distrust, you sow disrespect, you reap disrespect. You sow less care then you reap people not caring about you. Even the scriptures said it, “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Gal 6: 7
It is the quality of the input you make in your relationships that determines the quality of the output you get from it. Be good to people and you will reap good relationship in return, choose to have integrity in all your dealings with others and I can assure you that you will reap credible relationships. Even if some try to play on your good input and kind gestures, God will always in returns pay you back and reward you with better and healthier relationships.
I’ll like to end here, expecting to hear more pillars from you.
As I end, expecting your own pillars of a lasting relationship, please remember, you don’t go to the bank requesting for money from your account when you’ve not made deposits into such accounts. Therefore, before you can demand good from people, you need to ask yourself, have I made good deposits to their lives?
I celebrate you!
